Ask Dr. Helen: Is Male Bashing Curable?

Pajamas Media: Ask Dr. Helen: Is Male Bashing Curable?…

To give you an example, I was once at a Ruby Tuesday’s restaurant with my husband and daughter having dinner and listening to our pregnant waitress gush about her baby being due soon. “Do you know if you’re having a girl or boy?” I asked. “Oh, a girl, of course, we don’t need anymore men in the world!” Taken aback, I loudly said across the restaurant, “What do you mean, we don’t need ANY MORE MEN in the world? What an ugly sexist thing to say!” The waitress looked embarrassed and went slinking away, probably to the back where she spit in my food, but I didn’t care. I bet to this day, she will think twice before opening her mouth in such a nasty and utterly selfish way.

Okay, I felt good about that experience, but maybe you would not. Yet, I can’t help but think that aversive conditioning is not a bad way to react to people who think it is their God-given right to male bash. They do it because it is socially acceptable and there are not only no consequences for it, but often both men and women get kudos for “sticking it to the man.”

One thing, Married Man, that you must remember about human nature, (and especially women) is that most people are terrified of confrontation and will do anything to avoid it. They want to be liked or at least feel that they are a person worth liking. Make it unpleasant for them to let out their toxic tirades and they will stop—and it often takes so little effort. Notice that people in public places and the media rarely say anything derogatory about women. Why? It is socially unacceptable and they are afraid to. Make it costly for people to bash men and they will stop. Start with small steps—if all men and the women who gave a damn spoke up or told people to knock it off when the male bashing started, we would hear a lot less of it. …

One time a lady, someone I love, said men should just get out of the way and let the women multi task. She and the other ladies present laughed and I said, “what a terribly sexist thing to say.” Then she said, “Face it Randy, there are just some things men can’t do.” To which I replied, “not only are you sexist, you are beginning to sound like a female chauvinist pig.” The one other guy among these ladies smiled but his eyes looked like a deer caught in the headlights. My friend, she did the nervous laugh thing and said, “Are you serious?” and I said with a smile because I wasn’t angry, “Yes, I am.” Then we all had a discussion of how women can be just as sexist as men and don’t even realize it or even excuse it. We also talked about how sexism blinds us to the beauty of gender complementarity. Yes, the genders are wonderfully different but they are purposefully so. They are different to complement…not be better than or inferior to one another. So, my friend acknowledged her sexist statement and we all had a good five-ten minute discussion.

New Study Finds Abortions can Lead to PTSD

Washington, DC (LifeNews.com) — A new study published in the journal BMC Psychiatry finds that women who have abortions typically experience high levels of post-traumatic stress disorder. The findings mirror other research reports showing women are more likely to suffer mental health issues following abortions compared with keeping the baby.The study appeared in the July 2007 issue of the professional psychological publication but it only coming to light now.The research involved 155 women from South Africa who had abortions and were evaluated one month and three months afterwards.

Approximately 20 percent of the women had post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms just one month later. The results led the authors to note that “high rates of PTSD characterize women who have undergone voluntary pregnancy termination.

Looking at the women three months after the abortion, the number of women experiencing the PTSD symptoms increased 61 percent.

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It’s always perplexed me how abortion is promoted as some sort of boon to women. You can read more of my thoughts on the subject here, if you’re interested. It’s sad that the data is there to collect–but hopefully it will open more women’s eyes to the lie that the “pro-choice” movement has ever had their interests at heart.

“Abortion is the ultimate exploitation of women.” — Alice Paul

Campaign for Real Beauty

Speaking of beauty, this is one of the best ad campaigns I have seen in a while. Click here to see the other three ads.

Thanks for the link Jerry!

Come Home - Christians Hold Mass in Baghdad - Beauty Found

Yesterday I commented on how Islam hides the beauty and Image of God as seen in women. The Lord brought the following I think to remin me that it is all about relationships. When you are in relationship, authentic and sacrificial, beauty happens.

Read the commentary and view the photographs of Michael Yon: Come Home

Come home, come home,

Ye who are weary, come home;

Will L. Thompson, “Softly and Tenderly”

This is one of the most beautiful scenes I have seen coming out of Baghdad. The following brought tears to my eyes …

Today, Muslims mostly filled the front pews of St John’s. Muslims who want their Christian friends and neighbors to come home. The Christians who might see these photos likely will recognize their friends here. The Muslims in this neighborhood worry that other people will take the homes of their Christian neighbors, and that the Christians will never come back. And so they came to St John’s today in force, and they showed their faces, and they said, “Come back to Iraq. Come home.” They wanted the cameras to catch it. They wanted to spread the word: Come home. Muslims keep telling me to get it on the news. “Tell the Christians to come home to their country Iraq.”

Hat Tip: Michelle Malkin

In Search of the Beautiful

I went to Old Time Pottery for the second time in my life today. It was packed packed packed with people. You would think that this weekend was the infamous weekend after Thanksgiving when all the retailers are overrun with people Christmas shopping. Oddly, I went to Home Depot right after and it was deader than a door knob.

Anyway, large unfamiliar places with humongous inventories of everything shoved everywhere annoy me. Then if they are packed full of people trying to get the last of the best deal … I better just score a great deal myself or only be in there for a little while.

So I am standing there studying a lamp. Seriously… you don’t want to go shopping with me if I am “in the shopping mode.” I take forever. I am studying this lamp, studying and running through all the possibilities in my head. If the phrase “it’s perfect” doesn’t pop in there somewhere… I move on.

The problem is I struggle with home decor-dependency and want to *make* something work that just wasn’t meant to be. I am getting better but … it, this decor-dependency, slows down the hunt for the “it’s perfect.”

That’ll preach…I’m sure of it.

So I am studying this lamp and then I decide to break up with the unworkable situation. Dejected and a little sad, it was such a great lamp, I turn around and am immediately startled to the point of literally letting out a little “oh goodness!” in the general direction of a towering figure in black. It was a woman who had to be at least 6′4″ … not kidding, in a head to toe black burka. She was staring straight at me (downward angle cause … again … the woman was huge.) And her eyes were like, “Don’t you even think about taking that lamp!”

I told you, it was just like the day after Thanksgiving … the mayhem of *MINE!*

Then I noticed the lady had gloves on…non-descript sneakers and the only thing you could see were these piercing eyes that had no make up on. Anyway, I was embarrassed a little at being startled but I got to thinking how horrible this brand of Islam is to treat women in that manner. It just is. I hate seeing the Image of God born in the female soul/sense of being, hidden behind a cloak of unrestrained institutionalized misogyny. On the other hand, I hate seeing His image in her objectified, sexualized and prostituted for “entertainment” of the institutionalized secularized masses as well.

yeah … I said it.

I did end up with some art for the kitchen and entryway (very good deals.) And while my art is beautiful I can’t help but think of all the miraculous beauty hidden behind burkas. I pray the Lord would move in a miraculous way to free women from this oppression all throughout the darkened world that seeks control and oppress them.

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